Lecture on the Sixth Night
We were speaking about the 'paths of salaam' which lead us to light in the second stage that in turn lead us to 'Sirat-e-Mustaqeem' on the basis of Chapter 5, verses 15-16 quoted previously.
Few more ayats for today which act as pointers:
1) Surah Noor(24), ayat 32
وَأَنكِحُوا الْأَيَامَى مِنكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ إِن يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاء يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ {32}
[Pickthal 24:32] And marry such of you as are solitary and the pious of your slaves and maid-servants. If they be poor, Allah will enrich them of His bounty. Allah is of ample means, Aware.
In wasail-ush-shia, Marhoom Kulayni reports a tradition from Holy Prophet, "Marry a woman who may not be pretty but she is "walood" who may bring you children and do not marry a woman for the sake of her beauty who is infertile. Because surely I will be proud of you all over other nations on hte Day of Resurrection. Don't you know that children who are under the throne (of Allah) seek forgiveness for their parents, their guardian is Ibraheem (a.s.), and their care-taker is Sarah in a valley of mountains of musk, amber, and saffron."
People in the West delay marriage which is unnatural because Allah makes people mature (baligh) early and their bodies are ready for reproduction and child-bearing; any delay would be harmful for health of body and mind.
2)Surah Nisa (4), ayah 84
فَقَاتِلْ فِي سَبِيلِ اللّهِ لاَ تُكَلَّفُ إِلاَّ نَفْسَكَ وَحَرِّضِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ عَسَى اللّهُ أَن يَكُفَّ بَأْسَ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُواْ وَاللّهُ أَشَدُّ بَأْسًا وَأَشَدُّ تَنكِيلاً {84}
[Pickthal 4:84] So fight (O Muhammad) in the way of Allah Thou art not taxed (with the responsibility for anyone) except thyself - and urge on the believers. Peradventure Allah will restrain the might of those who disbelieve. Allah is stronger in might and stronger in inflicting punishment.
THe ayah speaks about the importances of providing assistance to others in good works
FOr example, the carpet of the masjid needs cleaning. People should not sit and watch one person do all the work, instead they should all help and get the similar sawab.
3)Surah Nisa (4), ayah 35
وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ شِقَاقَ بَيْنِهِمَا فَابْعَثُواْ حَكَمًا مِّنْ أَهْلِهِ وَحَكَمًا مِّنْ أَهْلِهَا إِن يُرِيدَا إِصْلاَحًا يُوَفِّقِ اللّهُ بَيْنَهُمَا إِنَّ اللّهَ كَانَ عَلِيمًا خَبِيرًا {35}
[Pickthal 4:35] And if ye fear a breach between them twain (the man and wife), appoint an arbiter from his folk and an arbiter from her folk. If they desire amendment Allah will make them of one mind. Lo! Allah is ever Knower, Aware.
In marital disputes, one wise, experienced, and knowledgable person from both sides have to mediate and reconcile them...It is not Islamic either to break marriage easily or to fight or pressurize a party to give in.
If all efforts for reconciliation fail and divorce takes place, then the following ayat says,
Surah Baqara (2), ayahs 228-229
وَالْمُطَلَّقَاتُ يَتَرَبَّصْنَ بِأَنفُسِهِنَّ ثَلاَثَةَ قُرُوَءٍ وَلاَ يَحِلُّ لَهُنَّ أَن يَكْتُمْنَ مَا خَلَقَ اللّهُ فِي أَرْحَامِهِنَّ إِن كُنَّ يُؤْمِنَّ بِاللّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ وَبُعُولَتُهُنَّ أَحَقُّ بِرَدِّهِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ إِنْ أَرَادُواْ إِصْلاَحًا وَلَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَلِلرِّجَالِ عَلَيْهِنَّ دَرَجَةٌ وَاللّهُ عَزِيزٌ حَكُيمٌ {228}
[Pickthal 2:228] Women who are divorced shall wait, keeping themselves apart, three (monthly) courses. And it is not lawful for them that they should conceal that which Allah hath created in their wombs if they are believers in Allah and the Last Day. And their husbands would do better to take them back in that case if they desire a reconciliation. And they (women) have rights similar to those (of men) over them in kindness, and men are a degree above them. Allah is Mighty, Wise.
الطَّلاَقُ مَرَّتَانِ فَإِمْسَاكٌ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ تَسْرِيحٌ بِإِحْسَانٍ وَلاَ يَحِلُّ لَكُمْ أَن تَأْخُذُواْ مِمَّا آتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ شَيْئًا إِلاَّ أَن يَخَافَا أَلاَّ يُقِيمَا حُدُودَ اللّهِ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلاَّ يُقِيمَا حُدُودَ اللّهِ فَلاَ جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا فِيمَا افْتَدَتْ بِهِ تِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللّهِ فَلاَ تَعْتَدُوهَا وَمَن يَتَعَدَّ حُدُودَ اللّهِ فَأُوْلَـئِكَ هُمُ الظَّالِمُونَ {
229}
[Pickthal 2:229] Divorce must be pronounced twice and then (a woman) must be retained in honour or released in kindness. And it is not lawful for you that ye take from women aught of that which ye have given them; except (in the case) when both fear that they may not be able to keep within the limits (imposed by) Allah. And if ye fear that they may not be able to keep the limits of Allah, in that case it is no sin for either of them if the woman ransom herself. These are the limits (imposed by) Allah. Transgress them not. For whoso transgresseth Allah's limits: such are wrong-doers.
While both have similar rights and responsibilities, men have a distinction if they want to accept them back.
Few more ayats for today which act as pointers:
1) Surah Noor(24), ayat 32
وَأَنكِحُوا الْأَيَامَى مِنكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ إِن يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاء يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ {32}
[Pickthal 24:32] And marry such of you as are solitary and the pious of your slaves and maid-servants. If they be poor, Allah will enrich them of His bounty. Allah is of ample means, Aware.
In wasail-ush-shia, Marhoom Kulayni reports a tradition from Holy Prophet, "Marry a woman who may not be pretty but she is "walood" who may bring you children and do not marry a woman for the sake of her beauty who is infertile. Because surely I will be proud of you all over other nations on hte Day of Resurrection. Don't you know that children who are under the throne (of Allah) seek forgiveness for their parents, their guardian is Ibraheem (a.s.), and their care-taker is Sarah in a valley of mountains of musk, amber, and saffron."
People in the West delay marriage which is unnatural because Allah makes people mature (baligh) early and their bodies are ready for reproduction and child-bearing; any delay would be harmful for health of body and mind.
2)Surah Nisa (4), ayah 84
فَقَاتِلْ فِي سَبِيلِ اللّهِ لاَ تُكَلَّفُ إِلاَّ نَفْسَكَ وَحَرِّضِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ عَسَى اللّهُ أَن يَكُفَّ بَأْسَ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُواْ وَاللّهُ أَشَدُّ بَأْسًا وَأَشَدُّ تَنكِيلاً {84}
[Pickthal 4:84] So fight (O Muhammad) in the way of Allah Thou art not taxed (with the responsibility for anyone) except thyself - and urge on the believers. Peradventure Allah will restrain the might of those who disbelieve. Allah is stronger in might and stronger in inflicting punishment.
THe ayah speaks about the importances of providing assistance to others in good works
FOr example, the carpet of the masjid needs cleaning. People should not sit and watch one person do all the work, instead they should all help and get the similar sawab.
3)Surah Nisa (4), ayah 35
وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ شِقَاقَ بَيْنِهِمَا فَابْعَثُواْ حَكَمًا مِّنْ أَهْلِهِ وَحَكَمًا مِّنْ أَهْلِهَا إِن يُرِيدَا إِصْلاَحًا يُوَفِّقِ اللّهُ بَيْنَهُمَا إِنَّ اللّهَ كَانَ عَلِيمًا خَبِيرًا {35}
[Pickthal 4:35] And if ye fear a breach between them twain (the man and wife), appoint an arbiter from his folk and an arbiter from her folk. If they desire amendment Allah will make them of one mind. Lo! Allah is ever Knower, Aware.
In marital disputes, one wise, experienced, and knowledgable person from both sides have to mediate and reconcile them...It is not Islamic either to break marriage easily or to fight or pressurize a party to give in.
If all efforts for reconciliation fail and divorce takes place, then the following ayat says,
Surah Baqara (2), ayahs 228-229
وَالْمُطَلَّقَاتُ يَتَرَبَّصْنَ بِأَنفُسِهِنَّ ثَلاَثَةَ قُرُوَءٍ وَلاَ يَحِلُّ لَهُنَّ أَن يَكْتُمْنَ مَا خَلَقَ اللّهُ فِي أَرْحَامِهِنَّ إِن كُنَّ يُؤْمِنَّ بِاللّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ وَبُعُولَتُهُنَّ أَحَقُّ بِرَدِّهِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ إِنْ أَرَادُواْ إِصْلاَحًا وَلَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَلِلرِّجَالِ عَلَيْهِنَّ دَرَجَةٌ وَاللّهُ عَزِيزٌ حَكُيمٌ {228}
[Pickthal 2:228] Women who are divorced shall wait, keeping themselves apart, three (monthly) courses. And it is not lawful for them that they should conceal that which Allah hath created in their wombs if they are believers in Allah and the Last Day. And their husbands would do better to take them back in that case if they desire a reconciliation. And they (women) have rights similar to those (of men) over them in kindness, and men are a degree above them. Allah is Mighty, Wise.
الطَّلاَقُ مَرَّتَانِ فَإِمْسَاكٌ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ تَسْرِيحٌ بِإِحْسَانٍ وَلاَ يَحِلُّ لَكُمْ أَن تَأْخُذُواْ مِمَّا آتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ شَيْئًا إِلاَّ أَن يَخَافَا أَلاَّ يُقِيمَا حُدُودَ اللّهِ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلاَّ يُقِيمَا حُدُودَ اللّهِ فَلاَ جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا فِيمَا افْتَدَتْ بِهِ تِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللّهِ فَلاَ تَعْتَدُوهَا وَمَن يَتَعَدَّ حُدُودَ اللّهِ فَأُوْلَـئِكَ هُمُ الظَّالِمُونَ {
229}
[Pickthal 2:229] Divorce must be pronounced twice and then (a woman) must be retained in honour or released in kindness. And it is not lawful for you that ye take from women aught of that which ye have given them; except (in the case) when both fear that they may not be able to keep within the limits (imposed by) Allah. And if ye fear that they may not be able to keep the limits of Allah, in that case it is no sin for either of them if the woman ransom herself. These are the limits (imposed by) Allah. Transgress them not. For whoso transgresseth Allah's limits: such are wrong-doers.
While both have similar rights and responsibilities, men have a distinction if they want to accept them back.
posted by Believer in the Unseen at 11:30 AM
1 Comments:
Although the main point discussed was marriage, Maulana made a very interesting point about comparing the people of Kufa to the current muslims of the world. Where the people of kufa had called on to the Imam but they fought against Imam Hussain (AS). They liked the Imam in their hearts but did not have the courage to stand with Our Imam.
Maybe a more in depth analysis needs to be done on the topic (comparision of kufi's vs current muslims). Could this be a possible topic for next Muharram?
We muslims need to realize where we stand, what is our destination? From what I understand, we know what our destination is? (being good muslims) But where are we exactly standing as of now? How does one determine the path unless he / she knows where they are?
For example: If my final destination is MOMIN, then how do I get to MOMIN center? This question can only be answered if I know where my starting point is? For example, am I coming from Arlington, Plano, Dallas downtown etc.
So in essence we need to realize where we are first, then move on to our final destination!
I feel it is very easy to find faults in others, but when it comes to evaluating ourselves we lack that skill of finding faults! Why is this so? Even if we are able to identify faults within ourselves, we dont feel strongly about them as we would when we see it in others!
Allah Knows Best
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